Jealousy & Judgement Holding You Back

Jealousy & Judgement Holding You Back

The beginning of the year is a time when the majority of us reflect and set intentions for the year to come. As we move forward into February, it can be a vulnerable time.

You may find your motivation and momentum is slipping and sometimes that leads to comparing your “successes” and “failures” to the progress of others. It’s a normal thing for you to judge yourself based on the people around you—what they are or are not doing compared to what you have stepped up to do (or not do) in your life.

Sometimes you can get jealous—or you start to make judgements about other people or yourself. Your ego starts to rationalize why them and not you. It can lead to holding grudges and acting out. When you put someone up on a pedestal and believe they have it so much better off, you are simply limiting yourself.

Jealousy is heavy and it doesn’t look good on anyone, ever. So why are we talking about it? Because…

Jealousy is connected to the limiting beliefs you are carrying about yourself. It’s a giant light bulb for self-reflection.

The thing about mental mindsets is that they can be changed. You have the choice to feel differently when it comes to witnessing greatness in others, no matter what it may be.

When you see something you want in someone else—whether it be a job, relationship, material objects, health, or wealth—it’s important to understand that within that feeling there is a reflection of something within you.

You see something in them that connects with something inside of you. Ask yourself “What am I doing that is keeping me from doing the same?”

Your beliefs created over time can block you from experiencing certain things in your life. And it’s up to you to elevate yourself and remove those mental blocks to meet your goals. (And if you don’t know how to do that, we can help:

When the feeling of jealousy comes up so do a lot of negative emotions that are only blocking that very thing you want from coming into your life.

What’s the alternative to feeling jealousy? Admiration!

Share the happiness you would feel if that were you reaching that success. Connect with knowing that there is something within you that can feel grateful and happy for wonderful things in another person’s life.

Admiring in others what we wish to experience is a feeling that will fill you versus deplete you—energize you versus drain you.

When you choose to feel happy for someone you can use that positive energy and mindset as fuel. Fuel to motivate yourself and believe that you too have the ability to obtain anything you desire. By accepting what others have or may embody, things that you admire can help you connect to believing you too are worthy of it all.  

You have the choice to feel admiration rather that jealousy.  

One person (or many people) achieving wonderful things in their life does not limit you from having the same, no matter what it may be. There is no limit on what’s possible. By choosing to admire in others what you acknowledge wanting in your own life will help attract and strive for it.